This week I've been writing my Workbook for 2018 for my clients. I've loved doing this; it's a free 30 page book full of tips to keep you on track in between or after your sessions. There are exercises and inspirational quotes to keep you going.
What is your Motivational Score?
One of the questions I ask is 'What is your Motivational Score?' In other words, how much do you really want your goal? And, more to the point, how hard are you willing to work at it?
It's very easy to say, 'I'd love to be thinner', or 'I want to stop wasting money each month,' or 'I need to be more assertive at work,' or 'I'm really not happy at work and must find some other career.'
But exactly how much time and effort are you willing to put into any of these? Are you prepared to pick yourself up when it gets tough?
The difference between success and failure is often that successful people keep going.
They have the same amount of talent as you do, the same circumstances, the same difficulties. But they keep going because they really want their goal.
Without staying power, your goal remains a wish. There is no one with a magic wand to bring about the changes you want. The only person who can affect change is you. And of course my role is to support and help you stay on track.
But you need to be honest and ask how much you want that goal. How much do you really, really want it? A 5 would be 'Yes, that'd be nice', a 7 would be, 'That sounds great,' and a 10 would be, 'I want that more than anything.'
Out of ten, what's your score?
If it's lower than 8, do you need to reassess? Or, remind yourself of the benefits that your goal will bring you. Write them down. 'My goal will bring me....'
If you could do one thing today that would bring your goal closer, what would that be?
Okay- so what's stopping you? If you're scoring 8 and more but you don't know how to start, maybe we should have a chat.
I'm Glynis, a coach for clients somewhere in midlife, helping them get the life they want. I work with them on careers, time-management, relationships and lots more. These are my musings on what life throws at people like us. You can read more about me here. Do get in touch if I can help you.