What's holding you back?
Now we are heading into mid-January, you may be falling by the wayside with your new goals. By February they may be a distant memory of something you decided to do on New Year's Eve.
It doesn't have to end in tears.
To make your goal achievable, make it small enough. Make sure there is a good chance you can get there. It's an old adage, but success does breed success.
For example, I need to tidy my office at home. It's a daunting prospect; it's tiny so unless everything is in the right place, it quickly looks chaotic. So what I do is this; break it down into tiny achievable tasks. Like sorting out the 'in tray' on my desk. Or tackling one shelf in the bookcase and deciding if there is anything that can be donated to a charity shop. I know that if I think 'I must tidy my office' I'm going to feel overwhelmed and shut the door on it.
Keep an account of your success however small.
Find a notebook and write down your achievement. So if you are trying to lose weight or get fitter, don't simply count the pounds you've lost. Count the small stuff too, like the biscuit you avoided, the 'office birthday cakes', or the fact you took the stairs and not the lift or escalator. Every tiny achievement adds up and is worth recognising.
Too often we focus on the end goal and not the small steps of our journey. Count everything you do that is going somewhere towards your goal. And if you have a bad day, don't dwell on it. Today is a fresh slate; it's a waste of time thinking about what you didn't achieve yesterday. Focus on the here and now; even if you only achieve one small thing today, you are moving forward.
I'm Glynis, a coach for clients somewhere in midlife, helping them get the life they want. I work with them on careers, time-management, relationships and lots more. These are my musings on what life throws at people like us. You can read more about me here. Do get in touch if I can help you.